Conceiving again after losing a baby


The loss of a child during pregnancy or in the postpartum is an unspeakably difficult event that can trigger a range of responses.  For some, there is an urge to conceive again as soon as possible.  But how do you know when you are ready to start trying again?

While my husband and I were waiting at the hospital for our stillborn daughter, Beatrice, to be born, I turned to my husband. “I want to try again soon,” I sobbed. He nodded through his tears. I was so relieved that he, too, felt that only another baby could fill the emptiness after the death of our daughter. It was never a question of replacing Beatrice—just of fulfilling the dream we had of a little brother or sister for our other child.